The Awkward Human Survival Guide

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32: Geriatric Voyeurism

October 21, 2014 at 2:00PM • 1 hour 2 minutes • Wiki Entry

This week we're talking about where homosexuals should live, how to cope with geriatric voyeurism, and loving a married man.

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Awkward Situation of the Week: Andy's aggressive self-promotion and the possibility of a jokester sending in questions (that we thoroughly enjoy).

This Week's Questions:

  • Saheda (23/SF) asks, "I am a 23 year old girl and am in love with a married man. I was a virgin before we made love for the first time. I know he will never marry me. My heart wants his marriage to end, but I know that is wrong. I feel so stupid. I don't know what to do. The feelings will not go away, and he wishes to continue to see me. I know I should end this affair, but how do I do this?"
  • Brandon (19/SM) asks, "My ex-girlfriend (of 1.5 years) dumped me because I cheated on her. I want to get her back but is that even possible? NO, I did NOT have sex with the other girl!! But she feels like I cheated on her anyway. What happened is I hung out with this girl who lives four blocks away and we used to be in the after school program together. Last time I saw her I was 11. So we got lunch and I hugged her after and my girlfriend's friend saw us and told her. We went to my place later and got high and I don't really remember why but she wanted to watch me jerk off so I let her. I know that was bad but it really wasn't to cheat. I didn't think of it like a sex thing. But my ex-girlfriend doesn't even know that part. She's just butt hurt cause I went to lunch with this girl and didn't tell her and so she dumped me. I love her and she is the girl I want in my life so how do I get her back?"
  • Anonymous asks, "Where's the best place to be gay? Like if I want to be a big fuckin' faggot where should I live?"
  • Anonymous (37/BM) asks, "Is it unethical to volunteer in a nursing home if I am sexually attracted to older men and women? I get hard sitting outside in my car thinking about it. I want to be around them and then go home and jack it, or maybe in the bathroom if I have to. Except that is potentially poor work conduct and I don't want to make anybody uncomfortable or think I am there to rape somebody's grandparents. Actually my most real and present fear is that I will pop a woody while working. I think if I just pushed wheelchairs or read books to them or even fed them it would be easy to hide, but what about other times? So should I do this, or is it too much risk for someone like myself? Even if there is some risk I believe you cannot achieve your dreams without it. I know my dream is unusual and you are probably laughing at me, but I cannot connect sexually with others in another manner. I am 37 going on 40 and I have explored my sexuality. I never enjoy sexual activity with people of my own age group. I do not like younger men and women. I enjoy the company of the elderly, and I enjoy it voyeuristically. So please tell me how I can make this work in a way that is safe for all involved. Thank you."

Special Segment: Interview with Gran'ma Marta.

Final Thoughts: Rob writes in with an update: "DACHIS!!!! Finally getting a chance to message you on this. Great new podcast by the way, really liking it. Couple of items I wanted to throw your way...Darren + Joel (Aloha issue) = Randall. When you played Randall on the podcast, it didn't sound as similar as Darren during the Joel/Aloha explosion. I might have just been overtired when I made that association. Second, I hosted a thanksgiving once for family, and did not provide turkey. Not because I was cheap, but because I'm vegan, and when my wife and I got assigned thanksgiving dinner, I was open that people can bring turkey, but I wasn't cooking one! Loving the podcast man...I might be your oldest listener, but it's a great listen during a horrendous commute!"

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